I recently came across this quote from the American writer and social critic James Baldwin:
“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.”
How does it strike you? I like its simplicity. To me, the first phrase acknowledges the challenges we’re all likely to meet, and the second phrase won’t let us wring our hands or wave them helplessly. I can see it helping me sidle up to things I’ve been avoiding. You wouldn’t think we’d need the reminder about how to get started–of course looking squarely at whatever-it-is comes first. But we probably do need it–most of us are really good at looking anywhere but over there.
Having managed that, we might be surprised that the sky doesn’t fall, the earth doesn’t shake. Sometimes we spend more effort in avoiding an issue than it would have taken to resolve it.